The Virtue of Chastity: Understanding the Experiences of Abstinence from Pre-Marital Sex Among Public High School Students

Abstract

The moral dilemma surrounding premarital sex among adolescents is a pressing issue that transcends cultural boundaries, affecting young people worldwide. This study explored the reasons and challenges faced by high school student couples in refraining from pre-marital sex (PMS), alongside their coping mechanisms and realizations to understand their experiences of abstinence from pre-marital sex. Using a qualitative case study design, seven couples aged 15 and above in a local high school in Eastern Visayas, Philippines, were purposively selected as participants. Data were collected through semi-structured interviews and analyzed using thematic analysis. Findings reveal that the primary reasons for abstaining include setting personal boundaries, strong family influences, and positive peer pressure. Challenges included societal pressures, navigating intimacy, and balancing the emotional and physical aspects of their relationships. The coping mechanisms identified were maintaining open communication, practicing mutual respect, and adhering to religious values. Furthermore, participants realized that avoiding PMS allowed them to prioritize education and personal aspirations while preserving family trust and cultural values. The study concludes that personal values, familial guidance, and social support play a critical role in enabling teenagers to resist PMS despite external challenges. Schools and communities are encouraged to promote comprehensive sexuality education, incorporating information about the risks of early sexual engagement and the benefits of abstinence. Programs should emphasize informed decision-making, fostering a supportive environment for teenagers to navigate relationships responsibly.